The mind is so powerful. Have you ever heard this quote?
Whatever your mind can conceive and can believe, it can achieve. ~Napoleon Hill
Our personal beliefs play a huge role in how we view our own life and even the way we view BIRTH. We develop our beliefs about birth based on what we have been told by others, what we have read, seen on television or social media and even what we've experienced. These beliefs can create fear and apprehension surrounding our pregnancy, labor & delivery; and these fears can impact our birthing outcomes. A lot of us grew up with women we looked up to and trusted - telling us how "awful" or "painful" childbirth was. They told us scary stories about their experiences. When we hear these negative stories and statements, they get embedded into our subconscious and then they become our beliefs.
When people think about birth, most tend to think about the physical aspect.
But, birth is as much mental as it is physical.
One of the biggest challenges of giving birth is "letting go". Giving up control in our mind and letting our bodies take over a process isn't easy as it is not something we do often. When a woman is past her due date or her labor has stalled, we (doulas) will often ask her if she has any negative thoughts or fears she may be holding onto? If she does, we address them, we talk through them so that she can get out of her head and let her body take over and then things will usually progress.
Some common fears are:
How will I know I am in labor? Will I make it to the hospital?